Mindset habit #5

Fuck motivation.

Ahhhh shit - thems is fightin words and likely to challenge every ounce of any kind of self-helpy mindset you've taken on over the course of your life. 

The idea of motivation is one of the biggest hoaxes we've been fed in terms of getting shit done ever. If you think about it, if we did everything based on motivation, we would never do anything.

How motivated are you to take out the garbage? Did you spring out of bed this morning feeling motivated to stick your hands in the filth and rot of last weeks life, only to have to tie it up and carry it down 3 flights of stairs (if you live in NYC) and have to grab the hepatitis infested garbage bin handle to chuck it in while seeing a rat and 3 cockroaches along the way?

Probably not.

But it's something you have to do if you don't want your house to stink or have shit piles everywhere. You do it because you value cleanliness and want to produce the result of a clean living space - and it's a continuous process. My guess is you're not motivated to take out the garbage, and if you waited for the motivation, you'd never do it. 

To produce a result you want, you go through the process - even if you don't want to. 

A lot of times, in fitness, we ask ourselves "what result do I want?" but the better questions to ask is, "what is the process I want?"

Because it IS a daily process. 

If we wait to be motivated to workout or cook healthy food, the opportunities would be few and far between. If you can catch a wave of motivation, definitely ride that shit like you're Bethany Hamilton and take full advantage, but we can't wait for it to come to get to work. 

I saw this in an article and thought it was so fitting because working out is uncomfortable. It's safer and easier to not work out and we can give ourselves a million reasons why we should skip.

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But, as my good buddy Brian Patrick Murphy says, "the rent is due everyday." 

I'm going to full you in on a big secret - most days I don't feel like working out. It's true. When it comes time, I get kinda complain-y, and I can think of every reason why it's okay if I don't. But once I start, it's actually not that bad, and 100% of the time I feel so much better afterward. 

There are a jillion things I'd rather do than food prep or cook for myself when i get home after a long day of work. BUT - food prep/cooking and working out is self care. I will probably not feel motivated to do it most days but it's part of the process. 

The author in the article above, Mel Robbins, has a great "rule" for getting shit done - bypassing motivation and doing the things you don't always want to do. Here's a little overview of her idea, the 5 second rule. 

Basically, you have 5 seconds before you think something like "I should go workout" before the monkey brain jumps in and takes over and starts making excuses. 

If you aren't feeling motivated to do something, count backwards from 5 - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and then get your ass up and do it anyway. 

Motivation is fleeting. It's kind of a false feeling that pops up just sporadically enough to make us feel like we need to have it to do anything. That's truly not the case. 

So your mindset habit for this week is: Fuck motivation. Don't wait for it to come to do the thing. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1... GO!